On Saturday night, I went to the 10:15 pm showing of The Dark Knight Rises at my local Lowes Theatre, very conveniently purchasing my movie ticket on Fandango using my Apple iPhone.
What a great movie! The Dark Knight Rises exceeded my expectations. Great plot, awesome character development, and believable acting. I was even pleasantly surprised by what a fantastic Catwoman Anne Hathaway turned out to be.
I have enjoyed all three of the movies in this trilogy; Batman Begins
No, my parents were not murdered. But, the truth is, in my past, I have mostly been fueled by anger. Anger that grew inside of me at the hands of a monster I suffered the wrath of from the ages of 8 – 13 years of age. I UNDERSTAND the feelings of your loved ones being hurt in front of you and the feelings of hopelessness and powerlessness created by not being able to do anything about it. I understand the feeling of someone taking everything away from you and there being nothing you can do about it. I understand what it feels like to have so much anger welling up inside of you that you feel like you can’t contain it any longer, like you are going to explode, destroying yourself and everything and everyone within the blast radius. And the more I understand about what I was subjected to as a child, and the evil in it, the angrier I become. The question is, what do you do with all that? What do you do with all that emotional energy?
I’ve dealt with my anger for a very long time. I honestly don’t know who I would be without it, and honestly, I don’t want to know. Lifting weights became my channel for releasing my anger, my channel for using all that emotional energy. Going to the gym, for me, is like going to church- it helps me define my guiding, inner light. Without this constructive channel for anger and stress relief, it is highly likely my life would have come to a tragic, destructive end. For all my education, both formal and self-directed, the best advice for handling anger that I have come across was expressed most simply and succinctly by Dr. Paul Dobransky. I believe, as he does, that you have three choices of what to do with anger, 3 choices on how to spend that emotional energy:
- Be constructive
- Be destructive
- Let it fester
The way that I understand it, you cannot elevate your emotional and mental condition to a higher level, until you successfully resolve the level that you are currently operating on. Self growth is required. You will notice that some emotional/mental levels are negative, and some emotional/mental levels are positive. Meaning some are predominantly destructive, by their nature, and some are predominantly constructive. With a little self assessment, you can discover the emotional/mental energies that dominates your life. Why that is useful is because identifying WHERE YOU ARE helps you recognize your strengths, your weaknesses, and where you need to move towards next if you are to improve the quality of your life.
For example, below the emotional/mental level of Anger, which is personified by the emotion of Hate, are the levels of Desire, Fear, Grief, Apathy, Guilt, and Shame… personified by the emotions of Craving, Anxiety, Regret, Despair, Blame, Humiliation. Also, please notice that the energies do not begin to turn positive until the level of Courage and the emotion of Affirmation is invoked.. My point being that you are required to resolve your negative emotions before you can possibly elevate your life to a positive level and that courage becomes the final gateway to your better life.
Back to Bruce Wayne and the Dark Knight Rises… Comic books and their characters, which have become enormously popular in the last few years, are basically a form of myth telling. Stories of myth and legend are meant to inspire and guide us as human beings to elevate ourselves… to be MORE. Being the Batman in “real” life is a practical impossibility. But, as human beings we are inspired by the romanticized ideal of this fictional hero because of what he represents to each one of us. To me, he represents how to remain a good and moral person while utilizing his anger and eternal inner pain to ultimately gain victory over injustice. He is a symbol of power. While it is not possible to be Batman in the real world, the myth of Batman does provide a lesson of how to turn the mostly destructive emotional energy of anger into the power to prevail over evil.
I am certainly not the only one who had it tough as a kid- many have had much tougher.
I am definitely not the only one who has negative emotional energy that needs a constructive channel for release. Whether your channel for constructive release is going to the gym, going for a run, starting a new home improvement project, playing an instrument, or drawing and painting… it makes little difference, as long as you choose something, an activity that is constructive rather than destructive.
Hopefully, if you suffer similar emotional distress, this blog post has given you a notion, or two, of what to do about it. Hopefully, you can take symbols like Batman to inspire you to make the right choices and elevate yourself to a better, happier life and ultimately heal your emotional self. Good luck.
Paul Newt has a passion for learning in all its forms, and finds great enjoyment in conceptualizing, creating, and improving systems that lead to success. Paul spends his time training, coaching clients, being a great husband and father, consuming non-fiction books, tinkering with new technology, researching investments, and building on old, refining current, and discovering new successful methods to improve human health, performance, and appearance. Paul’s lifelong goal is to become the best version of himself, and add value to the world by assisting others in doing the same.